Fatherhood Reflections

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I love being a dad. It’s the third coolest relationship I have. Two years ago I got to add this title “Father” to my life, but really it was just that, a title. I wasn’t a true father until several months after having our son because being a father was something I had to learn…

Passing your name doesn’t make you a father.
Sharing DNA doesn’t make you a father.
Being at home, even presently active doesn’t make you a father.
Being a father is an intentional daily decision to lead and lead well.

As a father I am part teacher, entertainer, uber driver, chef, servant, instructor and more! It is the most difficult job you pay to have without the option to clock-in or clock-out. Wake up early, engage. Come home from work, engage. Asked “but, why” for the 100th time, engage. Fatherhood is an invitation to put another’s needs above my own - it’s laying down my life and my will every single day.

Not only this, but as father’s we form and shape our children’s perspective of the world. And what’s scary is we do this regardless of our intentional participation in the process. We model marriage and brotherhood, faith and forgiveness, priorities and ethics, contentment and stewardship and we even model failure walking alongside these little humans day by day. So weighty.

Fatherhood is an invitation to put another’s needs above my own

There was a specific moment I remember just shy of a year ago… we were shopping for clothes. Our son was in his stroller, too young to walk and we had visited Target for the 3rd time that week alone. First it was laundry detergent, then it was a casual trip for new t-shirts and the last had no purpose at all. Mindless shopping as a family and I thought to myself, “what does this action teach him about what I value?” This moment always stands out to me. I was just going about my day and it struck deep that I was presumptuously teaching my son about values without even knowing it. My actions were screaming while my words stayed a whisper. I cannot count how many times I’ve stopped and asked myself since, ”…am I being a great father right now?”

Shepherding the heart of my kid, dressing my leadership in humility, showing my son how to love by pointing him to Jesus… this is life’s work. And it starts with my FIRST coolest relationship - that in which I have with Christ.

Happy Father’s Day friends! Cheers to never settling for daddy-duty. Let’s walk together in leading our children and leading them well toward the eternal.


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